One of the biggest challenges we all face in our day-to-day lives is learning to love ourselves. Crazy, right? I know this to be true from my own healing journey as well as the time I spend working with and talking to all of you. Another truth? No one is free from suffering but we can control the way we support ourselves through it. And, our inability to love ourselves will surely exacerbate the suffering making self-love and self-compassion a skill that is 100% worth learning. I love to learn and read and take what I can from those that have been through it. Be it a spiritual mystic, a friend, family or a trusted expert, have you ever realized that can respond differently to the same concept depending on who it is that delivers the message? Sometimes we have to hear the same thing over and over and over again until we get it!
With that being said, I am relying on a trusted expert to deliver today’s message because maybe it will speak to you in a way that I can’t which is great because this is important stuff! If you are new to the work of Louise Hay, let’s just say she is the guru of all gurus when it comes to positive affirmations. Curious to learn more, check out her best selling book (click to purchase).
Positive affirmations are a little like mantras. They are phrases that we repeat until they become a part of us. The “positive” part is important because we embody negative self-talk as well. If we walk around with the mantra that we are not good enough, that is what the world will see and you can understand why this isn’t a good thing, right?
So, check out the list below and see what speaks to you. Maybe you focus on one or two of the ideas and start with that instead of overwhelming yourself with the whole list. Maybe you print it out and read through it everyday. This could become your morning or evening meditation or a simple touch base throughout the day. How lovely!
The point is, we cannot expect ourselves to embody all of this overnight but, with practice, this will become our offering to ourselves and the world.
Homework: create a positive intention to go with each topic!
12 Ways To Love Yourself Today
by Louise Hay
1. Stop All Criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. Forgive Yourself.
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.
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3. Don’t Scare Yourself.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
4. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
5. Be Kind to Your Mind.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. Praise Yourself.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
7. Support Yourself.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
8. Be Loving to Your Negatives.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.
9. Take Care of Your Body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
10. Do Mirror Work.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too.
11. Love Yourself… Do It Now.
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.
12. Have Fun.
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!
Which is your favorite?? Share in the comments below!