Dear Stress, Let’s break up. It’s not me…it’s you. With only a few days left until Christmas, it is safe to say that many of us are feeling the stress of the holidays. Honestly, about a week ago I had this moment of total fatigue. The spirit of the holiday was no where to be found and instead, I found myself drowning in my responsibilities and the expectations to “get it all done”. While I was able to wrangle my emotions and refocus my energy it was not without effort. My solution? I needed to change my expectations…especially those that I place on myself.
I have always been the person that feels compelled to “do it all” and while that may seem like a redeemable trait it is often quite the opposite. It can be utterly exhausting and stressful. Why? Because it is impossible to “do it all” and that leads to unrealistic expectations which can manifest into feelings of failure. Who need that!?
So, here we are…it is Monday and that means this “Mindful Monday” is due to be posted. I should have finished this last week but I didn’t. I didn’t even start it! I knew that I was going to be out of the office all day so I promised myself I would get to it over the weekend. Then I made the (good) decision that I didn’t feel like working this weekend.
Now, I am sitting in front of my computer and up until a few minutes ago, I was staring at a blank page. I’m tired from working all day and I have been stressing over getting this post finished. In my feeble attempt to find something inspiring to share with all of you I became totally stressed out. I was freaking out and feeling a ton of pressure to get this post finished when I had one of those freeing moments. I let go of the expectations I had placed on myself and decided to simply be real because I am real and life is real. It’s hard. It’s messy. It is not perfect –nor am I.
Today’s post is as much as admission as it is a reminder that we don’t have to be everything all of the time. We do not have to be perfect. I truly love writing this blog but there are days, like today, when it feels like a lot and that is okay because it is honest.
Today I made the choice to break up with my stress. I am consciously embracing the fact that I do not have to “do it all”. Instead of fighting with my lack of inspiration I surrendered to it. Instead of feeling like a failure I simply accepted myself for who I am and what i am capable of in this moment. And, it doing this, a lesson was learned.
It’s always better to be real than perfect.